Love is Not Lost

Posted in Love with tags , , on March 22, 2010 by JoshuaJDrew

“Girls are like
apples on trees. The best
ones are at the top of the tree.
The boys don’t want to reach for
the good ones because they are afraid
of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they
just get the rotten apples from the ground
that aren’t as good, but easy. So the apples
at the top think something is wrong with
them, when in reality, they’re amazing.
They just have to wait for the right
boy to come along, the one
who’s brave enough
to climb
all the way
to the top
of the tree.”

I really wish I could give credit to the author who wrote that, but unfortunately the only reason I found it is because of my Stumble Upon and the insomnia it bring into my life. Now what I really have to say is that we need to stop trying to simplify love and relationships in one line of prose. This is cute and romantic but it’s not really how the world works. These girls who are “good apples” are the ones dating the guys who just figured out the don’t have to climb the tree, they can just go get a ladder. Not to mention the problem with apples is you never can really tell what’s inside. Some of the prettiest apples are the kind of apples that put out too much or the kind of apples that make you sick and throw up all night. And what about people who are allergic to apples? What do they do? Pop a bunch of penicillin and just pray for the best? Absurd in every facet and it’s time to accept there is no analogy for love.

You know why we all keep trying to simplify love? Because none of us really understand it at all. Those of us who think we have a grasp on it have never experienced it and those who have touched it have had it taken away and are ready to compromise the world to get it back. Those people are wrong too because love should never have to compromise. Maybe the best way to define love it to figure out everything that love is not.

Love is not jealous.

Love is not deceptive.

Love is not submissive.

Love is not hesitation.

Love is not angry.

Love is not sadness.

Love is not bitterness.

Love is not lost.

Goodnight.

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Feelin’ Good

Posted in Life In General with tags , , , , on February 12, 2010 by JoshuaJDrew

Valentines Day is upon us once again. February fourteenth is a day for women to feel loved, men to feel obliged and the whole world to spend a boatload of money. Every year it passes, Valentines Day seems more like a lost prophet with fewer and fewer followers. The ones without dates claim its invalidity, the ones with lovers feel obliged to display their affection and everyone else has their doubts that love exists at all. But here we are. Faced with another year of challenges, surprises and wonder, and the next landmark in our paths is the loathed and beloved Valentines Day.

Why do we hate a day that celebrates love? What better reason is there to mark something on a calendar. What other reason is there to smile in the morning? Three-Hundred and sixty-four days a year we take love for granted. I think it’s only appropriate we take one day to celebrate its victories. Even if you have no one around you to celebrate with. If there is no one in your life worthy of your love and admiration. Not even family members left to appreciate. Take a moment and glance to the future. Love is limitless and will always find a way back into your life’s existence. “All You Need is Love.”

We never like the idea of obligation and no one wants to feel pressured into doing something. It’s awkward and can lead to emotional action and undesired results. Don’t act impulsively and create romance merely because of the occasion. I am not an advocate of a seasonal affair to fulfil some fantasy of bliss and passion because a greeting card facilitated emotions. I want you to take the time and let the people you love know about it. That’s what this day is really about. It’s not supposed to be about gifts, dates, vacations, erotic nights, and wild fantasies – It’s about love. Maybe the reason you can’t find true happiness in life is because you haven’t taken the time to love others. So if you’re unhappy this season and you find yourself acting like a Scrooge, perhaps, instead of condemning the actions of others and spending time attacking the hype, you should search for something bigger. Something important and something worthy of love. Find it wherever you need to. Look at work, in school, in your families, in the heavens, in the situations you live in and find everything that makes you happy and absorb it. Don’t be afraid of what can come in the future. Fear will only limit your life’s possibilities and will inevitably lead to regret.

Do as you wish. If you don’t want to enjoy your life and you enjoy hating a day that celebrates something so great, then go ahead. The happiness around you doesn’t envy your position or your attitude. It doesn’t have to just be a day about greeting cards, candy and a phone call to your mother [Don’t worry Mom, I’m obviously going to call.] This day can be something great. It can be something epic, something noteworthy, something spectacular. If fact, if you can take the time to develop that frame of mind, and if you can change the way you think so that you wake up everyday feeling that way, then maybe you’ll understand just why Valentines Day should be a day worthy of celebration.

[I leave you with a Lyrics From Muse’s “Feeling Good”. It’s a perfect way to describe how we should feel each and every moment of our lives. If you can connect with the sediment of this song – you’ll find love]

“Birds flying high, You know how I feel
Sun in the sky, You know how I feel
Breeze driftin’ on by, You know how I feel
It’s a new dawn, It’s a new day, It’s a new life, For me..
And I’m feeling good.

Fish in the sea, You know how I feel
River running free, You know how I feel
Blossom in the trees, You know how I feel
It’s a new dawn, It’s a new day, It’s a new life, For me…
And I’m feeling good.

Dragonfly out in the sun, You know what I mean, don’t you know
Butterflies all out having fun, You know what I mean
Sleep in peace, When, the this day is done
And this old world, Is a new world, And a bold world, For me…

Stars when you shine, You know how I feel.
Scent of the pine, You know how I feel, Yeah,
Freedom is my life, When you know how I feel
It’s a new dawn, It’s a new day, It’s a new life, For me…

Feeling good”

Burning Down The House

Posted in Life In General with tags , , on February 5, 2010 by JoshuaJDrew

Everything we try is not going to work. Everyone we get to know isn’t going to stay near our hearts forever. Everyplace we work is not going to use us till our hearts give out. This doesn’t mean we can’t collect our resources as we travel along. The people, places and things we surround ourselves with aren’t supposed to last an eternity but that doesn’t mean they belong in the trash. Even loves lost, jobs quit, and friends forgotten can be huge influences again later in life and you’ll regret it a lot if you can’t call back someone you’ve scorned in the past. This again doesn’t mean every door we close will shut quietly. Sometimes the conflict comes naturally but we have to allow others to win the battle at times like these because it will make them more likely to apologize and do something kind for you in the future.

It seems like it should be easier for everyone to just “get along”, but as I can’t seem to emphasis enough, everyone just wants things to happen without ever having to put an effort forth. People will stand in your way. Most of the time these people were once allies who have been scorned or forgotten. The worst enemies are people who were once on your side. The easiest way to avoid this danger is to do your best to keep these people in check [as militaristic as it sounds] Continue reading

Our Third Biggest Concern

Posted in Life In General, Uncategorized with tags , , , , on February 5, 2010 by JoshuaJDrew

So, in my constant hunt for musical talent in the “Live Music Capital of the World”, I’ve found that this city is just like any other city, but with more people aiming high. A few extra bodies that think they can achieve greatness and don’t let the despair of others drag their spirits down. I applaud their perseverance and I’m glad I’m not alone in my quest for the sublime. It’s out there and it’s unfortunate that more of us don’t strive for more than mediocrity.The problem arises when the attitude doesn’t have a match the altitude. Just because we want something better doesn’t often mean we are willing to reach a little higher and grab what we desire. Procrastination is this country’s second worst enemy. Apathy might be the worst. I don’t want to talk to you about those. I want to talk to you about the third most pressing issue because it’s what’s been on my mind lately. This problem being the lack of role models in our society.

For example, I put out an ad looking for other musicians in the area. In a traditional ad like this there is a section listing the band’s influences. This is normally where I would have to take the time to figure out which artists, that I grew up Continue reading

Dog Days

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , , on December 23, 2009 by JoshuaJDrew

I have never loved animals. I’m just not a “pets” kind of guy. I don’t have any resentment towards them or any real problem with the other species, I just don’t have the desire to harbor one of them in my own home. Maybe it’s because the neighborhood dogs chased me around relentlessly when I was a child, maybe it’s because my younger brother thought it would be neat to toss a cat at my face when I was a kid and leave me with a permanent scar or perhaps it’s the horrible allergic reactions I get from them, but the verdict has been rendered. I have no need to own an animal of any kind.

Maybe I would be more interested if pets offered a little more utility. I just feel like I’m doing all the work and they get all the reward. I work to pay for their food, their treats, cleaning supplies and probably other investments [depending on which creature you connect with]. I also have to spend time with them, when to be completely honest, I don’t like spending time with a lot of the people I spend time with so why, pray tell, would I want to add someone else to my itinerary that offers me nothing in return.Buy me a dog that can hold my wallet for me or a parrot that can remember all the passwords I have on my computer and I’ll talk this subject over again. If Garfield wants to eat all the lasagna he needs to start doing his part in the kitchen. Continue reading

The Good, The Bad, and the Dying

Posted in Life In General with tags , , on December 7, 2009 by JoshuaJDrew

I’m not sure why but I get so personally offended when people try to recommend bad music to me. I actually don’t even like it when they ask my opinion on it either. One of two scenarios will unfold. I will either offend them by telling them details about why I dislike it, or they will get irritated that I dismiss their question. I think the easiest way to handle this issue is to explain why bad music irritates me so much. That way if anyone is really interested in my opinion after that, they will at least have a solid grasp on my point of view.

Music is the most passionate art form in existence. It’s raw elegant structure and enchanting  melody are the easiest way to connect to our core. Music moves us, music inspires us, music is the root of so much magic and beauty in the world. It’s something that everyone holds so dear and yet we are slowly destroying it.

I’m not talking about downloading music. Taking music off the internet, or “stealing”, as it is so incorrectly tabbed, is redefining the market for musicians but it isn’t the root of the problem. The real reason we have lost our ability to make good music is because no one cares enough to do anything about it. It has become such a struggle for money and the Continue reading

The Golden Age

Posted in Life In General with tags , , , , on November 29, 2009 by JoshuaJDrew

Television has been a staple in American life for over sixty years. The space shuttle, the elections, JFK’s assassination and everything in between, but let’s be honest. Television isn’t about the news, education or bettering yourself. TV is about entertainment and the silver screen continues to get bigger and bigger every year. It’s in its peak and there are so many good shows on now, a lot of which I’m sure you already watch but there are some gems out there that you’re missing and I’m here to remedy that.

Better Off Ted [ABC – Tues 9:30/8:30c]: A story about a man [obviously named Ted] who runs a branch of a research development firm. He struggles between dealing with his wacky co-workers, his dry and demanding boss, his romantic interest in the office and his daughter at home. This show is about to go into its second season and it is way far ahead of its time. In many ways it reminds me of Arrested Development. It has the same dry humor, the same character personalities and the same attitude. In fact it even features Portia De Rossi in one of the lead roles. Season 2 starts on december 9th but if you want to catch up in time, Hulu is streaming the entire first season until that date Continue reading