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Love is Not Lost

Posted in Love with tags , , on March 22, 2010 by JoshuaJDrew

“Girls are like
apples on trees. The best
ones are at the top of the tree.
The boys don’t want to reach for
the good ones because they are afraid
of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they
just get the rotten apples from the ground
that aren’t as good, but easy. So the apples
at the top think something is wrong with
them, when in reality, they’re amazing.
They just have to wait for the right
boy to come along, the one
who’s brave enough
to climb
all the way
to the top
of the tree.”

I really wish I could give credit to the author who wrote that, but unfortunately the only reason I found it is because of my Stumble Upon and the insomnia it bring into my life. Now what I really have to say is that we need to stop trying to simplify love and relationships in one line of prose. This is cute and romantic but it’s not really how the world works. These girls who are “good apples” are the ones dating the guys who just figured out the don’t have to climb the tree, they can just go get a ladder. Not to mention the problem with apples is you never can really tell what’s inside. Some of the prettiest apples are the kind of apples that put out too much or the kind of apples that make you sick and throw up all night. And what about people who are allergic to apples? What do they do? Pop a bunch of penicillin and just pray for the best? Absurd in every facet and it’s time to accept there is no analogy for love.

You know why we all keep trying to simplify love? Because none of us really understand it at all. Those of us who think we have a grasp on it have never experienced it and those who have touched it have had it taken away and are ready to compromise the world to get it back. Those people are wrong too because love should never have to compromise. Maybe the best way to define love it to figure out everything that love is not.

Love is not jealous.

Love is not deceptive.

Love is not submissive.

Love is not hesitation.

Love is not angry.

Love is not sadness.

Love is not bitterness.

Love is not lost.




Posted in Life In General with tags , on November 17, 2009 by JoshuaJDrew

Without taking the time to have any pity for myself and without removing any of the responsibility, I think I’ve figured out why I have romantic entanglements with so many women and can’t take the time to stay in one relationship. I’m not going to use my words to set this up. Instead I’m going to start with a quote from the ending dialogue on last weeks episode of “Californication”. It’s a conversation between the main character Hank Moody and his daughter Becca. She has just discovered that her father is involved with almost every woman in his life and confronts him on his lifestyle.

“You need to tell me why you do the things you do when you know that people can get seriously hurt. […] What do you want me to take away from this, from the way you treat women? Is that all they are to you, walking vaginas?”

“There is no excuse for my behavior. There is no defense if somebody got hurt, especially you. But I need you to know that I started out with the greatest of intentions. I guess I wanted them to all see it. The thing that makes them special. I guess that’s all anybody wants. To been seen to be recognized. Then the lines get blurry, and the fact that your mom and I are in such a weird place. Yeah, hence the big stinking mess. But I’m sorry if I let you down sweety.” Continue reading

Love Actually

Posted in Life In General with tags , on November 9, 2009 by JoshuaJDrew

How many times during your life have you allowed golden opportunities to slip right through your fingertips? Does it feel like the moments when you were starting to gain some momentum suddenly crashed into an epic failure? Maybe the last time you had it right and really felt as if you were the one in control, things suddenly took a turn for the worse and you wound up abandoned and in despair. Does that mean, with a couple simple setbacks, you’ve lost the ability to get behind the wheel and steer yourself back into the right direction? I shouldn’t even have to answer because these questions should be rhetorical. If your parents gave you the impression that this journey was a cake walk then I’m sorry to once again be the bearer of bad news.  This is a bumpy ride and it gets worse. If the things you are dealing with don’t involve life threatening medical conditions, a criminal conviction or cause the impending apocalypse then there will be higher ground. We all have to work at it, suffer through the struggle and climb the mountain, if not for the thrill of the adventure, then for the moment of success. It’s going to take an extremely long time for some of us and others may not see it during their time on Earth but the important thing is never to dissolve hope, don’t cast faith aside, never compromise yourself and take the lessons and experiences of your past and build a better version of yourself out of their ashes.

Maybe you’re having a difficult time watching someone you once loved move on to someone new. Maybe it’s your fault Continue reading